Thursday, October 16, 2008

Grieving

Have you ever had to grieve? I was reading an article today, and found the following 5 pre-requisites for healthy mourning for loss.

(1) Commitment to grieving as a healthy personal priority, without excessive guilt, ambivalence, or anxiety.

(2) Consistent inner and outer permissions to (a) feel and (b) express our natural shock, disbelief, rage, and despair - over and over; and to (c) turn our mental confusion into clarity and order, over time, by asking questions, and repeated venting, discussion, and meditating.

(3) Restated - grievers need a stable, pro-grief (high-nurturance) environment to move steadily through the phases toward loss-acceptance.

(4) Motivation and opportunities to reflect, sort, feel, and process.

(5) All the time we need, and patience as we mourn a day at a time.


Work through the denial that hides the anger; ...

Work through the anger that hides the hurt; ...

Work through the hurt that hides the loss and loneliness; ...

Work through the loss and loneliness that hides the lack of self-worth; ...

Work through the lack of self worth that hides the total confusion; ...

Work through the total confusion that hides our unwillingness ...

to give up our own control and to surrender our lives to the Creator.

- Anonymous -

4 comments:

audrey` said...

How was the horse riding yesterday, Kitty? =)

Pia said...

kitty, thank you very much for praying for me on my birthday last week. i saw post. you're so sweet. God bless you... always.

Kitty said...

Hi Audrey, horse riding was exciting and lots of fun. I have uploaded many photos on facebook. You can have a look dear!

Kitty said...

You're very welcome Pia. Bless you heaps sis!