Sunday, October 02, 2005

What Is Your Love Language?

I recently finished re-reading Gary Chapman's book "Five Love Languages" and found it insightful - here goes the summary:

Love Language #1:Words of Affirmation
Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple straightforward statements of affirmation

Love Language #2:Quality Time
A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together. Togetherness has to do with focused attention. Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each others eyes. It means we are doing something together and we are giving our full attention to the other person.

Love Language #3:Receiving Gifts
Gifts are visual symbols of love. Most wedding ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. The person performing the ceremony says, "These rings are outward and visible sings of an inward and spiritual bond that unites your two hearts in love that has no end." That is not meaningless rhetoric. It is verbalizing a significant truth—symbols have emotional value.

Love Language #4:Acts of Service
Such actions as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, removing the white spots from the mirror, getting bugs off the windshield, taking out the garbage, changing the baby’s diaper, painting a bedroom, dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operating condition, cleaning the garage, mowing the grass, trimming the shrubs, raking the leaves, walking the dog, and changing the cat’s litter box are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love.

Love Language #5:Physical Touch
Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating love. Holding hands, kissing and embracing are all ways of communicating emotional love to one’s partner. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they secure in the love of their spouse / friends.

Out of these 5, which one is your love language (for giving and receiving)?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

my love language is 'quality time'. Lisa

Kel said...

mine are quality time and acts of service

my man's are words of affirmation and physical touch

no wonder communication is such a challenge in many relationships

we all tend to offer to others what we like receiving as love language, but it's what they like that they need to receive to feel loved

Kitty Cheng said...

hey Kel mine is quality time as well....let's spend some quality time together during the Melbourne International Arts Festival shall we?

Kitty Cheng said...

hey Kel mine is quality time as well....let's spend some quality time together during the Melbourne International Arts Festival shall we?